ready to rip my hair out!!!

Ugh so I have been having one of those days that make you want to crawl back into bed and curl up with a good book and get a break from reality. No such luck! My daughter had a meeting with her behavioral assistant and then pitched a fit because she wanted to go to one mall to by jewelry for her piercing since she lost it all and then wants to go to another mall later to "hangout" we told her yesterday that she could not go to the mall to hang out right now. Yes we know she just spent three weeks in the hospital and that she needs to have some time back with her friends but wow every waking moment that she is not in school can not be spent with her friends. While she was in the hospital she asked us to implement a family night...we agree and now she doesn't like the night we chose because it interferes with her going to the mall?? Uhm I don't think so. Now I have dropped her at her tutor at 3:30 she is supposed to be at the library for 2 hours with the tutor well apparently the library closes at 5 tonight because of the holiday weekend. OK so I will pick her up at 5 instead of 5:30 and then she calls me and wants to go to her friends house to hang out before she goes to the movies. the movie doesn't start until 8:05 and she thinks shes going to go hang out for 3 hours I so don't think so and we have told her that she is not going to be doing that for a while. she can not seem to grasp that she is not going to go back to the same things she was doing before. If the things you have been doing got you into the situation that landed you in the hospital why would you come out and do them again?!?! I wont allow it. she has a lot of things she has to work on and until she is more mentally stable she will not be doing anything out of what we are comfortable with her doing and she has to learn that she is a 12 year old and does not make the rules she has to follow them!

cars are falling apart all over again!!

OK so here we go again with the cars..... Everyone should know by now that I am in school online. This means my class mates are from all over the country and world for that matter. One of the girls lives in Chicago. She is battling cancer and while she works she has a hard time covering her bills and saving money for the unplanned things that come up. She and I were talking this morning and she was very upset over her car a Toyota Corolla. she said she was driving home form work last night and it started to over heat. I have quite a bit of knowledge about cars and to me it sounded like her water pump is bad and needs to be replaced. Where did i tell her to look for a shop at? Repairpal. I told her that she can find repair shops and estimates on this site and that they are all over Chicago. Chicago auto repair is a huge market and there are so many shops. Repairpal gives user ratings and customer comments on the service that they have received. Well she found a shop called them and they were able to get her in today. She should have her car back later today and that is great because she will have it to go see her mom over the holiday weekend. Thanks again to repairpal for helping a friend or family member find the repairs they needed and giving them an idea of what it should cost!!

Oh what a day

I know I know I know two blog posts in one day!! Don't panic lol. I have had a hell of a month! my daughter has been in the hospital and then released to a partial hospitalization program for the last almost four weeks. She was in for a week at the end of April and they pushed her out too early and with in a week and a half she bounced right back in. She suffers an anxiety disorder in the form of an adjustment disorder. I had the whole idea of an adjustment disorder misconstrued. I did not know that an adjustment disorder is anxiety caused by any change. Any change could mean a new hair cut, a new pair of shoes, new clothes, even a change in friends. She has been using cutting to cope with this anxiety. By cutting I mean she cuts herself, her arms, legs, even her sides. One of the things that has been bothering her lately is a falling out with her best friend since second grade. My daughter and her friend have been inseparable. When my daughter went into the hospital this last time it was for the cutting and she had a suicide plan and had even went so far as to write a suicide note. In the note she wrote a section to her "best friend" she wanted her to know that even if she never read it that she will always look at her as her best friend even if the other girl hates her. I sat and cried to think how much these two girls have been through together and now they do not even talk anymore. The have been through the other girls first boyfriend who was so controlling that she almost lost all of her friends because he would not let her "hangout with them" my daughter included, yet she stayed by her friends side. The two girls have parallels between their biological fathers as well and could help each other with the things that they deal with as children of alcoholics. My daughters father passed away when she was six and she still has some issues about him that the other girls still deals with now. I hate to see that anytime the other girls name is mentioned even if not about her my daughter bursts into tears. I want to hold her and tell her it will be OK but since the other girl wants to hang around with known drug users and one guy is also known as a drug dealer I can not tell my daughter that everything will be alright because i do not know if it will be. I am saying that all of the falling out is the other girls fault because it isn't. My daughter has made some bad choices and has since righted and changed those choices but if the other girl still wants to hold a grudge them maybe it is not worth my daughter still trying to be friends with her. I can only imagine how she feels. I have had the same best friend since I was seven in second grade. We have been friends for 25 years now. I think I would rather die than to loose her as a friend! We have been through so much together, she has made some of the worst choices and I have as well. But no matter what we have done (never to each other) but in general we have stood by each other! that is what real friendship is all about..There is a saying that goes like this: When the world walks out a true friend walks in!
this is what friendship is : it is accepting, giving, caring, understanding, and forgiving.
I hope the girls work it out soon I am tired of seeing my daughter so sad with out her friend and I miss the other girl...I just never thought that she could be so mean to some one she called her friend and the unfortunately the person she told us she hated my daughter being friends with she is now seen with almost daily. How the tides have turned!!

Gotta send money??

I was just talking to a friend of mine. All of her family is in the Philippines. Her mom and dad are both ill and facing some hard times right now. then again who isn't. She was trying to figure out the fastest way to send them some money. She was thinking about sending them a money order or cashiers check but the mail in their area is so slow it could be almost two months before they receive it. I feel really bad for her and started looking for ways she could send the money faster. I came across AtlasExpress. they have been shipping packages and the like to the Philippines for a long time. For a few years now they have been doing money transfers to the Philippines. They seem to be a very reliable company and she had such an easy time sending her parents money. Her parents received the money in 48 hours as promised. I often wonder if I spend too much time trolling the web but then there are times that all that trolling pays off!!

here I go again!!

Things with my husband are getting better again.. we were at a wedding and he turned to me and said if we make it 5 years then We can redo our vows and neither one of us have to be confirmed to have it in a Catholic church. My husbands first marriage was not in a church and he has always wanted a church wedding..I know kinda strange for a man to worry about things like that but he does....I love my husband and this is a huge break through with him however when I asked him about it he was like well I did say if...so we are not where we should be yet but we are getting there!! Just wanted to share a quick blurb more later!!

Ugh and there goes the car....

My mom is from Texas and as today May 11th is her birthday I thought this fitting! She went the last week of April to visit her family and my grandparents made the pilgrimage home to Texas as well. She flew they drove. They arrived the same day in the Dallas area. They spent a few days there visiting and then decided to take a road trip of epic proportion! They set out to visit my uncle and new aunt and cousins in Houston and then on to San Antonio. While they were in Houston my uncles car an Acura TL started making a brake noise. I was talking to my mom while this was going on. She told me that they were really strapped for cash to make repairs. I told her about a site I had been on before it was : repair.com. On this site she could find all kinda of information about Houston Auto Repair.I told her that she could look up what the cost of the brake job should be and also what the oil change should cost. As soon as they got to house they went online and went to repairpal.com they were able to find the estimates and TONS of shops in the area. There were reviews of the shops from actual customers, all of the contact information for the shops was there and they were able to find a close shop that could do the work the same day. The shop that they chose did the work and actually came in a little under the estimate that my mom and uncle had gotten from the site. Over all they were quite impressed. I am so glad that I was able to help them out when they needed it!