ready to rip my hair out!!!

Ugh so I have been having one of those days that make you want to crawl back into bed and curl up with a good book and get a break from reality. No such luck! My daughter had a meeting with her behavioral assistant and then pitched a fit because she wanted to go to one mall to by jewelry for her piercing since she lost it all and then wants to go to another mall later to "hangout" we told her yesterday that she could not go to the mall to hang out right now. Yes we know she just spent three weeks in the hospital and that she needs to have some time back with her friends but wow every waking moment that she is not in school can not be spent with her friends. While she was in the hospital she asked us to implement a family night...we agree and now she doesn't like the night we chose because it interferes with her going to the mall?? Uhm I don't think so. Now I have dropped her at her tutor at 3:30 she is supposed to be at the library for 2 hours with the tutor well apparently the library closes at 5 tonight because of the holiday weekend. OK so I will pick her up at 5 instead of 5:30 and then she calls me and wants to go to her friends house to hang out before she goes to the movies. the movie doesn't start until 8:05 and she thinks shes going to go hang out for 3 hours I so don't think so and we have told her that she is not going to be doing that for a while. she can not seem to grasp that she is not going to go back to the same things she was doing before. If the things you have been doing got you into the situation that landed you in the hospital why would you come out and do them again?!?! I wont allow it. she has a lot of things she has to work on and until she is more mentally stable she will not be doing anything out of what we are comfortable with her doing and she has to learn that she is a 12 year old and does not make the rules she has to follow them!